You are the emotionally volatile. The volatility is the source of the chronic ups and downs, the chronic reactivity, the chronic intensity. The volatility is also the source of the chronic shame, the chronic self-judgment, and the chronic sense of the never-quite-stable that are the foundation of one of the most under-recognized, and most under-discussed, psychological phenomena in modern life. The phenomenon is the emotional volatility, and the volatility is the source of the chronic shame, the chronic self-judgment, and the chronic sense of the never-quite-stable that are the foundation of the most under-developed, and most under-celebrated, character traits of modern life.
The reframing of the emotional volatility as a nervous system issue is the source of the chronic relief from the shame, the chronic engagement with the regulation, and the meaningful life that are the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
What the Emotional Volatility Is
The emotional volatility is the chronic, often unconscious, experience of the rapid, intense, and disproportionate emotional reactions to the situations, the people, and the thoughts. The volatility is the source of the chronic shame, the chronic self-judgment, and the chronic sense of the never-quite-stable. The volatility is the source of the difficulty of the navigation.
Research on emotional regulation and the nervous system by Stephen Porges and others has shown that the emotional regulation is the source of the nervous system regulation, and the regulation is the source of the meaningful engagement. The engagement is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
Research on the polyvagal theory by Stephen Porges has shown that the emotional volatility is the source of the nervous system dysregulation, and the dysregulation is the source of the chronic emotional volatility. The volatility is the source of the difficulty of the navigation, and the navigation is the source of the meaningful engagement.
Why the Volatility Is Not a Personality Flaw
The volatility is not a personality flaw for several reasons. The first is the nervous system origin. The volatility is the source of the nervous system origin, and the origin is the source of the chronic dysregulation. The dysregulation is the source of the cost, and the cost is the foundation of the difficulty of the navigation.
The second reason is the treatable nature. The volatility is the source of the treatable nature, and the nature is the source of the chronic relief. The relief is the source of the cost, and the cost is the foundation of the difficulty of the navigation.
The third reason is the common experience. The volatility is the source of the common experience, and the experience is the source of the chronic normalization. The normalization is the source of the cost, and the cost is the foundation of the difficulty of the navigation.
The fourth reason is the biological basis. The volatility is the source of the biological basis, and the basis is the source of the chronic legitimacy. The legitimacy is the source of the cost, and the cost is the foundation of the difficulty of the navigation.
What the Reframing Achieves
The reframing achieves several important things. The first is the shame reduction. The reframing is the source of the engagement with the shame reduction, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The reduction is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
The second is the regulation engagement. The reframing is the source of the engagement with the regulation, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The engagement is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
The third is the self-compassion. The reframing is the source of the engagement with the self-compassion, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The self-compassion is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
The fourth is the stable identity. The reframing is the source of the engagement with the stable identity, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The identity is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
How to Address the Volatility
1. Notice the volatility as the nervous system signal. The notice is the source of the awareness, and the awareness is the foundation of the change. The notice is the source of the engagement, and the engagement is the foundation of the navigation.
2. Use the somatic regulation tools. The tools are the source of the engagement with the nervous system, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The tools are the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
3. Practice the "name it to tame it." The naming is the source of the engagement with the regulation, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The naming is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
4. Use the "I'm having the feeling, I'm not the feeling" mantra. The mantra is the source of the engagement with the boundary, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The mantra is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
5. Practice the self-compassion in the moment. The self-compassion is the source of the engagement with the regulation, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The self-compassion is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
6. Get the professional help for the deeper work. The professional help is the source of the engagement with the depth, and the engagement is the source of the meaningful life. The professional help is the source of the growth, and the growth is the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life.
7. Celebrate the regulation. The celebration is the source of the reinforcement, and the reinforcement is the source of the motivation. The celebration is the source of the engagement, and the engagement is the foundation of the navigation.
When the Volatility Is a Signal
It is important to say clearly: not all emotional volatility is the source of the chronic dysregulation. Some emotional volatility is the source of the appropriate response to the actual threat, the actual harm, or the actual boundary violation. The honest self-inquiry is whether the volatility is the source of the appropriate response, or whether the volatility is the source of the chronic dysregulation. The first is the source of the engagement, and the second is the source of the resistance.
The Takeaway
Why the emotional volatility is a nervous system issue, not a personality flaw, is one of the most under-recognized, and most under-celebrated, reframings in modern life. The reframing is the source of the shame reduction, the regulation engagement, and the meaningful life that are the foundation of the more engaged, more meaningful, more deeply stable life. The cure is not to suppress the emotions. The cure is to address the nervous system, to use the somatic tools, and to engage with the regulation. The next time you feel the volatility, pause long enough to notice the signal, to use the somatic tools, and to engage with the regulation. The engagement is the source of the more meaningful, more stable, more deeply self-aware life.
